Haley Thogmartin and Chuk Anyanwu Tell Different Stories About How Their Friendship Ended

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What Anyanwu Said in the Cameo

Fans began circulating a roughly five-minute Cameo on Nov. 9 in which Anyanwu, identifying himself as Chuk and talking about Big Brother, described the end of the friendship. “What happened with me and Haley like I promised you was like nothing other than like a friendship ending. Me ending that friendship. Uh, and then I blocked on everything,” he said.

He placed the bar incident on “Halloween day… Halloween night whatever.” A woman and her boyfriend, he said, “freaking pushed me and shoulder checked me so I pushed him back.” He added, “of course shouldn’t do that, but they did it to me first, they pushed me first so I feel like it was completely warranted.” Thogmartin, he said, “is not a fan of that and she’s mad at me for them pushing me first.”

He said he told her he did not want to be her friend and did not understand why she kept telling people they were best friends: “to me you are not my best friend.” He said she did not know much about him or his family — that she thought he was born in Nigeria, when he said he was born in the United States at Medical City Dallas, and that she thought he was the oldest sibling, when he has three older sisters.

“I really feel like I was just there cause she wanted a Black token friend to like help credit her and help like people not think she’s racist, just to be like, ‘Wait, I have a Black best friend named Chuk.’ I’m like bro, I am not your best friend and I think you’re just using me,” he said.

He also said they did not align politically. “Cause of you everyone in the hou… well not everyone in the house, but like the world thought I was fucking Republican and MAGA. I was like bro, I am not that, I am a Democrat, I am a Black male,” he said. “Last thing I ever want to be put in a box and considered is fucking Republican.”

He said he could understand how that landed for someone who thought they were best friends. “Nothing happened other than like a bar situation that had nothing to do with her,” he said. “You would think someone who’s your friend would be like, ‘Yo, are you good?’ No, she did not care about me at all.” He said he told her he did not know why she had come, that she left, and that he was “so happy.” “It was like a weight off my shoulders when she left,” he said.

Thogmartin’s Response

Thogmartin posted at 1:13 p.m. ET on Nov. 9, before the most widely circulated shares of the video. “Saw the cameo you made buddy, let’s not rewrite history here,” she wrote. “YOU were very drunk, two hand pushed a girl because she was trying to get past you in a shoulder to shoulder bar — her boyfriend got involved and wasn’t happy. No, I wasn’t okay with that. You were pissed I didn’t have your back as a ‘best friend.’ This is how it started.”

She added that he then tried to justify “WHY you put your hands on her” to people who broke up “your tiff with her man,” quoting him as saying, “how embarrassing and stupid of the girl to do that when I’m bigger than her boyfriend.” She closed, “Come on… I’ll tell the true story if you want the rest out.”

https://x.com/Hjthogmartin/status/2119855941533171847

About two hours later, she posted again: “Forgive me for thinking we were ‘best friends.’” The post included photos. Pop Culture Pit is relying on her written statements, not on a reading of those images.

https://x.com/Hjthogmartin/status/2119882768138068405

Her Stepfather’s Statement

On Tuesday, Nov. 10, Sam Ridgeway, posting from the account @VikingHRT and identifying himself as Thogmartin’s stepfather, wrote that he felt “the record needs to be set straight.” Ridgeway refers to Anyanwu as “Chuck” throughout. Anyanwu’s name, as billed by CBS, is Chuk.

Ridgeway said the two FaceTimed daily, that “a vast majority of those calls were initiated by Chuck,” and that Anyanwu had spent time with the family at the Big Brother 28 finale in Los Angeles. He said Thogmartin flew to Dallas on Oct. 29 for a pre-planned alumni meetup, after Anyanwu had been “repeatedly asking Haley to stay at his place.” The friendship, he wrote, was “truly just friends. Nothing has ever happened beyond friendship.” He also alleged that Anyanwu took a picture of Thogmartin sitting on his bed without her knowledge and posted it online without her consent. Pop Culture Pit has not independently verified that claim.

The night of the falling-out, Ridgeway wrote, was Oct. 30, 2026 — a different date than the “Halloween night” Anyanwu described in the Cameo. Halloween fell on Saturday, Oct. 31. We are reporting both versions.

Ridgeway’s account of the bar incident is closer to Thogmartin’s than to Anyanwu’s. He wrote that Anyanwu, “after drinking heavily the entire night and not eating, shoved a girl in a crowded bar because she had bumped into him,” then “got into a verbal altercation with that girl’s boyfriend.” He said “this event has been corroborated by multiple people who were witnesses to the event.” Pop Culture Pit has not spoken to those witnesses.

Ridgeway wrote that, starting on the elevator ride back to the apartment, Anyanwu began “to go off on Haley” — that she was not a friend, that she should have had his back at the bar, and, Ridgeway wrote, that “she deserves every abusive relationship she’s ever been in” and that “his big brother career was destroyed by her.” He said Thogmartin told Anyanwu she was recording the conversation “so he could hear how cruel he was when he sobered up the next morning,” and that she did. In the Cameo, Anyanwu did not mention a recording.

According to Ridgeway, Anyanwu then told her to get out, giving her five minutes to pack, at 3 a.m. Ridgeway described her standing in a hallway in a city she did not know, with no car and an unreliable phone, and said that after Anyanwu “slammed the door shut, Haley heard him bolt it from the other side,” then blocked her. In the Cameo, Anyanwu said he had “blocked on everything” and that “she left,” and that he was relieved when she did. He did not describe a 3 a.m. deadline, a bolted door, or her being left in a hallway.

https://x.com/VikingHRT/status/2120225399766413384

An Unverified Account

The Big Brother commentary account @TheBigBroTea posted on Nov. 9 that “Chuk has returned to Twitter (or someone has joined Twitter pretending to be Chuk) to fight with Haley,” and shared screenshots. Pop Culture Pit could not independently verify that any of those accounts belongs to Anyanwu. A previously used handle associated with him, @ChukBB28, is suspended. We are not treating a disputed or unverified account as his official voice.

https://x.com/TheBigBroTea/status/2119898677569613885

They Were Close in the House

Anyanwu, a 27-year-old supply chain analyst from Dallas, and Thogmartin, a 29-year-old telemedicine executive who lives in Wildwood, Missouri, were allies on Big Brother 28, in groups that included the Toolshed and the Red Corner. Anyanwu was evicted on Day 38, Aug. 13, in a 9-1 vote. Thogmartin was the only houseguest who voted for him to stay. After that eviction, he told TV Insider that she was “my best friend” and “a close friend in the house,” and that he had spent his final week isolated with her. Thogmartin was evicted later, on Day 53. Rick Devens won the season, as Pop Culture Pit reported.

Pop Culture Pit has not independently confirmed what happened at the bar or afterward at the apartment. The accounts above are presented as each person stated them. More reality TV coverage is on our Reality TV page.